Wicked morbid title, right? So, Valentine’s Day is coming up, and while on the other 364 days of the year you are loving your blissful single life, the heavy handed idea of pairing off can get to anyone. The next post is about spending Valentine’s Day alone, but tonight is for those who want a snuggle buddy.
Leave the house. Go anywhere, go some place you like, a bookstore, a coffee shop, karaoke. Maybe take the opportunity to try a new activity or go to a show solo and surprise yourself. I know sometimes it’s hard and the struggle of interacting with other people is daunting on Wednesdays, exhausting on Fridays, but just see what the world around you is like.
Love is not the objective. If you go out, head on, looking to pounce on anyone who will do just for this holiday, it’s a waste of your time and theirs. Normally, I’m supportive and say go for it, but love is weird things. You’d be surprised what you’ll find when you’re not outright looking for it. Have adventures for you, enjoy the time out and about for yourself, and maybe you’ll bump into someone you can stand longer for a weekend. I’m cynical about the beginnings of relationship, but I will admit, just this once, I’m optimistic about the possibilities.
Do something nice for someone else. You’re not the only lonely heart in the world. Go out and be nice. I’ve always wanted to hand out roses, and give them to people by themselves. I used to dress up with wings and all for Valentine’s Day to make other people smile, even if I was lonely myself. Buy a cookie for the cute boy at Starbucks, a glass of whatever she’s having, a book for the person who you’d like to talk to but are just too shy. If something comes of it, great. If it doesn’t end with you going to a movie on Valentine’s Day big whoop. Rejection is meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
Try a dating service. I know, I know. I don’t like them very much either, but I did meet my favorite ex on OkCupid. (*sigh* We’re still such good friends.) A new approach might be just the thing, or you might realize you’re not that into a relationship right now. Be safe though. I would hate it so very much if I lost one of you.
Spoil yourself. I do. When the heart shaped boxes of chocolate spring up, so my does sweet tooth, which is like nonexistent. Take yourself for a date with you. Get dressed up, like really dressed up and go out with friends. Shift those annoying memories and thoughts of couples you could’ve been in and want to be in far, far away. If I do ever wander over to those thoughts, I always think to the future and what I would like my relationship to be like. Don’t settle for less just because it looks cute on Instagram. Those people were probably just like you once, and who is to say or even care what becomes of their relationship. Focus on you. Hi, hello, remember you? Love yourself and people who can love you will see it too. That’s what you really want.
The post for the 666 is how would like to find your partner in crime? Or how did you meet your darling of night?
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Until next time,
Don’t be hungry for life. Be ravenous.
Zakkarrii Edison Daniels